Behold, children are a gift of the LORD,

Behold, children are a gift of the LORD,

Monday, June 25, 2007

Ramblings by me!

I have so much to be thankful for. A wonderful husband, 5 beautiful kids,somewhere to live, great parents, etc... I am so thankful I have a husband who loves me and would never lay a hand on me. Recent events in the news about the pregnant woman being found dead has brought up old wounds for me! I will not get too deep into it but I really feel for these women who feel so lost that they have to be with men that are not nice to them. MEn that abuse, neglect, disrespect, women in a way God never intended and how they bring the innocent children along for the ride. Just so sad. If you know someone who is going through this please just do not sit by and let this happen, talk to the proper people. Yes, it may make you friend, sister, daughter,etc.. mad but in the long run it could be what saves her. Yes in some circumstances no violence or ugliness has happened. I understand this . But for the ones and you know who you are don't just let it happen. And to the woman going through this do not think God has forgotten you, do not feel alone in this. He is with you and is your strength. If you are doing all you can possibly do to have a blessed and godly marriage then it is time for you to go to the proper people and get out of that! God does not intend for you to be treated this way! Nobody should be treated this way. I do not know why I feel lead to write about this, Maybe it is because I am so tired right now and things like the recent murder of that girl and her innocent baby daughter make me so sad. Maybe because I know that is could of been me. I don't know. I am just thankful for where I am today.

My next rambling is gonna be about my son that I have talked about before. He is having a awful time. I am looking into maybe taking some things out of his diet but I don't know, If you know of any good sites about this please pass them on. They got him on stronger meds not but it only seems to be making things worse. When I picked the kids up from VBS tonight his teacher said he was VERY disrespectful tonight and just very bad! I just wanted to cry. And I hate to bother his dad with it cause he works so much. I am just not sure what to do with him anymore. Makes me feel like I am failing him. REally sad about that. I love him so much and I hate when he talks like he has tonight . My children mean the world to me and as many of you mothers know it is very hard when you do not know what to do for one of your children.

Well that is about all the blogging I have in me tonight, I am not feeling too good tonight. I still went walking tonight though so I am gonna give myself a pat on the back for that. I walk everyday , I hope soon I see some weight loss. After this last child it is has been the hardest to lose weight.


keithandjennifer said...

Take out all sugar and white flour. If you have to add a little sugar add Florida Crystals (Walmart) it's a non bleached sugar Durma Sugar. He can eat fruits, vegetables, meat, whole wheat bread. IF you can get raw milk. Try to let him eat whole foods. No processed things. Just a thought

keithandjennifer said...

BTW you should tell Billy as well.

Jane-Jane said...

my two cents: White potatoes and white rice too... white is "not good" because of all the processing. Whole grain breads are different than whole wheat... typically more grainy and better. If he is allergic to mold, let me know, I can forward you the info I have on foods to watch.

I know that all this makes a HUGE difference in my physical and mental state of mind.

AND... meds don't always work the way they were designed to in children around puberty (as young as 8!) the hormonal changes that are going on behind the scenes REALLY effect the way the body processes meds. Have you gotten a second or third opinion on the meds?

I agree with Jennifer... Billy is his daddy and needs to be active in his son's matter how much he is working. I know there were several things that were "kept" from my dad because he worked so hard and so many hours. As a 40 year old, I regret my father not knowing me and my issues I was dealing with. Again my 2 cents!

Tiffany said...

Oh I have let him know and he and Dustin have had a long talk AGAIN this morning and he will not be going to VBS tonight. I know this sounds harsh but it is what billy thinks is right so I will stand behind him. Thanks for the suggestions and keep them coming.
Jane-Jane I would love for you to let me know what would be the foods that would be good for him to eat.

musicmommy3 said...

I hesitate to comment because I don't know you (I do know Jennifer though) and I don't want to put you out but my heart is going out to you and I keep thinking about your situation so I just wanted to add my two cents. :):) You can throw it away if you want to.

I definitely agree with the diet change thing. I have 3 little boys. I am not pretending that I have the same medical issues with my oldest as you but I DO know that my 5 year old cannot have more than one cookie at a time and that alone makes him hyper for hours. We have explained to him that he has to learn to be more obediant in order to have sugar because it's hard for him ot control himself naturally let alone with sugar. He is mostly ok with that. However, we have been enforcing that for years so he's used to it by now. He knows we have his best interest at heart. We want to give him every tool to be obediant; especially considering that he's bent on having his own way. :):) I would completely erradictate all processed foods, anything dyed, white sugar and white flour. Diet changes are hard but they can make a TON of difference in some people.
The other thing I will say is that I would tell his Dad about the struggles regardless of how much he works. Speaking from experience- BOYS NEED their Daddies. I have noticed that when my boys aren't having enough one on one time with Daddy their behaviour takes a downfall. There is something about that relationship. With more kids it's harder but I tend to think it's essential. I know there are seasons in life when it's near impossible but around here we work to make them VERY short seasons. We have not always suceeded in this area but when we are I notice a definite difference. That said...DON'T beat yourself up for not being a "better mother" or a "failure" at raising that particular child. No parent can do everything perfectly. I believe that God gives us the kids He wants us to have. He gave your son to you just like he gave you your other kids. Some kids tend to bring out our "worst" side (speaking from experience) but had I not had him I would not have known the depths of what was in my heart. I love him SOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH; even though we went rounds for 4 years. He is such a precious boy. You sound like a WONDERFUL mother. Just remember that you don't have all the answers. NO PARENT does; but you know the Answer Giver. He tells us that if any of us "lack wisdom we shoudl come to the Father and ask." and that He will "give liberally without finding fault."
I pray God's richest blessings on you and your household!! Love, Angela :)

Anonymous said...

I know, it is really sad about that poor lady and her baby... and then last night I heard on the news that a man in our state killed his wife and daughter, and then today, a wrestler killed his wife, son, and self. What is going on????? So, so heartbreaking. The things you wrote are all so true....

I'm sorry you're still having trouble with your son, too. The best thing in the world you can do is stand behind your husband like you're doing. Kids sense any weakness between their parents and are super quick to get in there and take advantage of it. I don't think missing VBS sounds too harsh at all, I think it sounds like a very logical consequence. Will keep praying for you, I know it's so hard. Don't get down on yourself!!!!