I have not wanted to really write this post but I feel like the Lord has been wanting me to for a while. I have thought about this and thought about this topic. I have talked to a couple wives lately about issues they have with their husbands. Not the normal culture talk where the wife bashes her husband and talks about all the things he does wrong but just the more spiritual issues which is the most important. I am thankful to have a husband who is saved. I know he is saved and I am thankful he is strong in his beliefs and knows what he believes. I am thankful he is the leader of this home! Not all wives have this I know. I didn't always have it. My husband would agree with this also. I was saved when I was younger but totally was a backslider ( I am sad to say). The Lord started working on me again and I was following him sooner that my husband was. I just wanted to give my whole life to Him. I so wanted my husband to follow me but I could not change him ONLY the LORD could. But there was something I could do. PRAY! I really felt the Lord calling me to turn over my whole life to him , most importantly children and finances. The two hardest things to let go of. I talked and talked to Billy about this. He had a hard time with it, especially just turning our fertility over to the Lord. At first I kind of kept nagging him about it all. Something a wife should never do. Then I realized I was so wrong and just started praying. Praying for the Lord's will to be done, praying Billy would be a leader of our home, a godly man, and praying that I would love him the way the Lord intended. He went to a men's retreat with my brother in law and came back a totally different person. The transformation the Lord did in him that weekend was amazing. From then on our lives changed. We now have 10 children and the Lord has provided for our needs. God is sooo good. The point I am trying to make is no matter if your husband is not the Prince Charming you had hoped for just love him, pray for him, be there for him. If you are joyful in all things and praise the Lord and serve him then your husband will see and hopefully want what you have. 1 Peter 3:1
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives. God is so good and so BIG. Do not underestimate what God can do. ********I feel like I need to stop right here though and touch on something very briefly. This post is not intended to say a women that is being battered and beat up by her husband should stay. A husband is also suppose to love his wife as Christ loves the church. But you husband may be grouchy or not affectionate,etc... Pray about this! Give it to God. This is your man who God gave you. He CAN change his heart and if he doesn't then you just keep on serving the Lord with gladness. I can never sit and write all the Lord has done for me in my life. Yes, there are trials and hardships but so much more JOY! I hope this has helped someone or encourage someone going through a similar situation. I am saddened at all the divorce, as much divorce in the church as in the world. It is truly so sad and not what God intended. Wives just love your husbands! Care for them, put them first , respect them and the Lord will bless you.