Having Your Children's Heart

We are really struggling with one of our children right now. I wonder sometimes if the things we do or say to our kids really really make a difference. We try to do it right, although we ARE human and mess up time to time but we are really having a hard time with one of our children. THEN yesterday the child that has been such a blessing to me with so many little ones did something that was very upsetting. So then you stop and think are any of your children's heart in the right place. To have them live right you have to have their hearts. So... that is what I am really going to be working on until the baby comes. I KNOW that one day HOPEFULLY the way we are trying to raise them will show through. Oh how I pray it does anyway but until them I will just have to work on getting their hearts and therefore hopefully in turn them having a heart for God. Do you have your children's hearts? Is it something you strive for. I know in this society alot of times parents just want to be friends with their kids. TO not make them mad, to not have conflict but in the end does that benefit your child? It is easier to just let them go about their business than to do on them constantly. It is very time consuming but for ME it will be worth it in the end.