Being A Wife and Mother IS Enough

     I am not sure when the lie started that women need to be more than JUST a wife and mother but I do know it is what has changed our society and I do not think it has changed it for the better. Children NEED their mother and a man NEEDS his wife. I have went through times where I felt bad for not contributing to the family financially and because my husband has to work so hard but then I remember what I am commanded in the bible. Here is what the bible says about being a wife:

Ephesians 5:22                    
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
In this verse I realize that being a wife IS enough. This is what my husband expects of me, to be home and content on keeping the home. Taking care of his children and just caring for his needs.

Proverbs 31:10-31                    
An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar.
In this verse it reminds me that doing household task and taking care of the home IS my job.

****Before I go any further I want to say I know and understand some women have to work. I am not judging anyone so please do not think this. I do believe however SOME women COULD be at home and SHOULD be.

    Bearing a new liberated identity, many women have devoted themselves to ambitious busyness everywhere but in the home. We want recognition and being a mother will NOT get you much of that. Nobody sees the countless hours you pour into your family and it is downplayed as ,"just a stay at home mom". Women have been brainwashed to believe that the absence of a payroll occupation enslaves a woman to failure, boredom, and imprisonment within the confines of home. While we may not get huge recognition the knowledge of knowing we did what the Lord commanded in teaching our children when they rise and when they lay down is enough. That we took care of our husband and loved him as commanded. Our goal is not in temporal things but in eternal. Raising a soul to follow the Lord is much more important than making those dollars. Training your daughter to be able to take care of her household is important and so is preparing your son to provide for his future family.

  Being a wife and especially a mother you have to practice a lot of unselfishness and in our society for many that is a hard pill to swallow. It is sometimes for this mama as well. The Lord is really doing a work on me in this department. Motherhood is a rewarding job but many times the biggest rewards are seen much later! But the Lord gives us small rewards along the way like the innocent smile of a 4 month old , a child reading for the first time, the I love you mama's, the huge hugs out of no where, or the 17 year old son that loves the Lord and has grown into a awesome young man. Also the reward of being able to be there for your husband. Plan special occasions and really put thought into them. Being home when he comes home. Having dinner prepared. Being here just when he needs me IS enough.

 I want you to know those that are reading this: The mom that has had no sleep or the wife who feels unappreciated that Someone sees you. Someone sees what you are doing, that you are doing your best and sometimes feel nobody cares. There is someone who cares very much so for you. So much so He gave His one and ONLY son. Someone sees the drudgery of everyday life and it DOES matter. The clean laundry, the clean dishes, the diaper changes, the cooked meals, clean house, snotty noses wiped, etc. are all for eternal things. These are things that are not temporal but for eternity and THAT is what is important. YOU MATTER AND BEING A WIFE AND MOTHER IS ENOUGH AFTER ALL THAT IS WHAT WE ARE COMMANDED TO BE!

 

Lies and Truth

 There is so much that fill our heads these days. So many lies that it is hard to find the truth. Sometimes it gets so confusing that what you thought was the truth turns out to be nothing but lies. But there is HOPE- my hope is in Jesus- the way , the TRUTH, and the life.

   There is the lie that if you become saved and follow Jesus that things will be all peaches and cream(yes, I am from GA. :) ) but in reality sometimes that is further from the truth. Following Jesus means we may lose things, suffer, go through sickness, heartache, pain. We may never understand this side of heaven why on earth we had to suffer so greatly BUT there is the TRUTH. The truth is that God never leaves our sides, He is always there and He is our hope. It DOES all end well but for a season times may be hard.

    Then there is a lie that you will have health, wealth , and such. Not sure where in the world that came from either but this is not true either. IF God has given you wealth then He is probably giving it to you so you can help others and reach out and be His hands and feet. There is a LIE going around that we keep it for ourselves , see how much we can buy and how fancy of things we can get. The TRUTH is you will fall and lose in this game. The TRUTH is you may have nothing, be sick, and be all alone BUT IF you have Jesus you have EVERYTHING!

   There is a lie that you are not enough . That God is not enough. But you know what God IS enough and He made you so you are enough.  2 Cor. 12:9 says, for His Grace is sufficient. Grace is a beautiful thing and there goes into another lie. Many have heard and have in their heads that grace is not for them. That they have done such horrible things that God could never love them. That is a LIE. The Truth is Jesus died FOR ALL! And everyone who calls on the name of the Lord and follows Him shall be saved. That my friends is TRUTH.

  Life is HARD. People will come and go out of your life and times will get lonely but continue to follow TRUTH. In the end it is so worth everything you ever went through. God is so good and we are so blessed. In this day and time it is hard to find the truth for the lies so that is why it is so important to stay in the Word and not listen to man! In Christ we are a new creation! Thank goodness for that!

Those Horrible Teenagers!!

 I have written about this before but feel the need to do it again. I am very sad about the comments  I hear like, " Just wait until they are teenagers". Or just the talk in general about having teenagers and how horrible they are. Yes, I have made the same comments just trying to be funny but really it isn't funny. Teenagers should be viewed and treated like young adults. We should be raising them on a strong foundation so that they may go out and share the gospel. If we did that then we would never have to worry about saying those things.

  I have to be honest I LOVE my teens and they are much easier than my younger ones most days. I have 3 teenagers in this house at this time. Twin 16 year old sons (who will be 17 in March) and a 15 year old daughter. Yes, they add some added issues in the house and sometimes the hormones are flying but they are so helpful. They make it where I can have time with my husband, try to work on healing my adrenals, or just have time to get my thoughts. They keep us laughing and remind us how life should be fun. They have amazing faith and we could actually learn a lot about how hardworking they are. They are always ready to learn.

 Maybe we should start saying look at those horrible adults. Don't you think a lot of times things might fall back on the parents or adults in their lives. Now, don't misunderstand me. I do believe some teens can backslide from their beliefs and turn away from their parents for a time. I KNOW this happens. Happened to me but I do see even Christian parents just trying to shove their kids off to someone else and speaking horribly about their children. Think about how you would feel if someone talked about you constantly, you would have a horrible attitude as well. Think about going through the changes of hormones without a Christian foundation. Maybe we need to start rethinking things. Maybe they are not all the cause of the name they have but the affect of how they have been treated. So , next time that teen is sitting in their room by themselves or they slam that door another time , just maybe you should go ask them why. Talk to them! They will after all be gone very soon. Time is fleeting. WE should be reaching our teens NOW and love them NOW.

 I have some of the best teens around and am so thankful for them. They keep me on my toes. They make me laugh, cry, dance, sing, run, get angry, worry, and LOVE. They teach me so much and I am thankful the Lord gave me these children. While at the time they might not have been viewed as the blessings they are , I am thankful the Lord knows much better about what we need. ;)

To the least of these

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Valentine's Day

While for the most part I believe Valentines' Day is just a another day where businesses try to make extra money by exploiting certain things. I believe stuff is overpriced and that we should treat everyday like Valentine's Day. Do I? No, but I should. But while I do not necessarily agree with it I can use the "holiday" to put my husband first and make sure he knows how much he is loved.

You do not have to spend a ton of money on stuffed animals , overpriced candy, or chemical laden food. You can plan out a time for you and your spouse without spending tons of money. I cannot mention yet what I have planned because my sweetie reads this but I hope he ends up feeling very special.

Most importantly I want to remember the ultimate Valentine gift and that was Jesus Christ. John 3:16 says , For God so loved the world He gave his one and only son!!! Wow! Oh how much He must love us! What a precious gift of love! That is what I want to remember this Valentine's Day. That is what I want to teach my children. And that is what I want to give others. God is soooo very good and I just want to put my focus on him.

While many will not celebrate Valentine's Day at all I see no problem in showing your spouse just how much you love them. WE should be doing that anyway. I see no problem in a holiday that reminds us of that. So, what are you planning this Valentine's Day?

The difference starting the day with the Lord makes!!!

 I will admit it even though I really hate to but yes, I have fallen away from doing much bible study. I always have an excuse and granted they may be valid there is NO EXCUSE good enough. Yes, I am tired. Yes, too many people usually need me at one time. Yes, there is a house that needs cleaning. Yes, there is so much to do in a day but who should be first???? I am amazed the older I get the more in awe I am of the lessons the Lord teaches me. When the new year started I decided I would make time! But did I? No. It was always something else taking the place of my precious Lord and Savior. So, last night I decided I was just going to get up before anyone else and have my bible time and you know what my day was so much smoother. I did have a lot to do today, took all the kids grocery shopping with me and even took some time to take my favorite 15 year old to the thrift store like she has been asking to do. Yes, my day was still filled with a screaming toddler, a baby would just wants to nurse whenever he sees me, a son who wants to talk about putting out fires all day long :) , kids that need attention, laundry and dishes that need washing BUT I was able to handle it without feeling stressed. God is sooo good. I know in my head that if I rely on Him, if I put my faith in Him that everything falls in to place but pride gets the best of me and I go off again trying to do it myself. (Probably how I ended up with adrenal fatigue syndrome ,lol).

 I wanted to write this blog post to remind mommy's and well everyone to remember to keep the Lord with you all day long. Start the day with Him and your day will go so much smoother. Will we run in to trials. You can bet on it!!! But with God's grace we are able to handle them so much easier. God is so good to us and we are so undeserving. Can we at least take some time out of our busy schedules for someone who gave us life, who gives us all we need, who gives us the gift of eternal life if you choose to receive it.

So , I just wanted to especially share with all the mommy's of little ones right now! Lean in close. Listen carefully. God is enough! God is all you need! In those moments when you feel like nobody cares, when you feel so alone , when you feel like what you do daily doesn't amount to much there is someone who cares and someone who is right there with you every step of the way. Start your day off with Him and I guarantee you will feel so much better. I know you are tired and weary but the Lord tells us to come to Him and He will give us rest. ~Blessings to you all and I hope you have found some encouragement here . In a society where everyone wants to put each other down and say hurtful and mean things I just would love to maybe be the light in someone's day with the Lord's help of course because I am nothing without Him!

''Psalm 118:24 This is the day the LORD hath made; let us rejoice and be glad today!

Moms Be A Product Tester for Generation Mom!!!!

   I signed up to be a product tester for generation mom a couple of years ago and in that time I have gotten to test a couple of travel swings, a pack and play with changing station and bassinet, toys , and several other things. After testing them you get to keep them!!!! This not only saves us money , it also lets us try things we normally might not get to try and also give our feedback on ways to improve baby items. Also allows us to hear about other brands we have never heard of before. Since we have 10 kids I have a lot of opinions on ways to improve baby items LOL! Anyway, all you do is test the item and then fill out a questionnaire. Very simple and so worth the time it takes to do this. If you are interested here is the link to sign up:
http://www.kidsii.com/genmom/

*** I get nothing for posting this. Just glad someone passed it on to me!!!